5 Personal Traits That Will Impress Him And Capture His Heart

 If you’re completely crazy about a man you likely want to know how to capture his heart. Men can be something of a puzzle to women particularly if they don’t know exactly how to appeal to his heart. Men aren’t nearly as complex as you may think and there are certain things that any woman can do that will make her utterly irresistible. If you want to get your man to love you more, you need to learn how to sweep him off his feet so he can’t ever imagine loving anyone but you.

1. Be yourself, not who you think he wants you to be.

Understanding how to capture his heart starts with recognizing that in his eyes, you need to be completely different than any other woman he’s been with. Most of us resort to the same old tired tactics when it comes to trying to get a man to adore us. We think we need to cater to his every whim. We’ll cancel plans just to see him and we’ll change our opinion on important matters just to align with what he believes. These things are not going to get you the man you want. Instead he’ll label you as weak and non-original.
If you’ve already made plans for a girl’s night out or your best friend’s birthday party, don’t pretend you’re sick and cancel just so that you can be with him because he called last minute asking to see you.  Not only will you be a crappy friend/sister/daughter/etc., but sooner or later, he will find out that you drop people who are important to you simply so that you can spend time with him. It’s very likely that he won’t think it’s as cute as you do.  It’s actually quite self-centred and disrespectful to those who care about you.  Is this really the message that you want to convey to him?

2.  Find your voice and use it.

No man of any value wants a “yes-girl”.  When he asks where you want to go on your dinner date, tell him.  If he asks your opinion on his impending career change, tell him your honest thoughts.  You do have preferences and an opinion, don’t you?  Make those things known.  Men love women who are strong and self confident. He wants you to share your own opinion, one that isn’t colored by his.  The key is to be yourself and embrace that woman. Don’t change to please a man because if you do the relationship will be short-lived and you’ll end up unhappy and alone.

3. Embrace your independence.

I’m sure you’ve heard that strong men like an independent woman, and that is actually very true.  I know that a lot of you ladies reading this right now are shaking your heads thinking that you are independent and that only seems to threaten men and push them away more.
David Medez of The Bottom Line addresses this very issue by stating that, “Based on my experiences, women tend to think that men are intimidated by someone who is non-submissive, straightforward and fits various other adjectives that are not compatible with traditional gender roles. While some men can be off put by the overly aggressive type, women should be not afraid to assert their independence.”
The bottom line is this: independence in a woman is attractive to a man who values a woman for who she is, and not just for what she can provide for him.  It is true that some men will just want you to agree with their opinions and viewpoints, but ask yourself why that is.  Is this not the man who is actually threatened and lacks self-esteem?  A man who wants their relationship to be a true partnership, wants and needs an actual partner, so be one.  This doesn’t mean agreeing with everything he says.  It means contributing to a healthy relationship and future by bouncing ideas off of one another and communicating individual dreams, plans, desires, and opinions in order to merge them into the life that you two can and will make together.

4. Your confidence is an aphrodisiac.

We’ve all been there – finding ourselves totally captivated by someone who wasn’t necessarily the best looking man we’ve ever seen but our attraction meter went into overdrive anyway.  It’s usually because this type of man exudes an incredible amount of confidence without being cocky.  Women like a man who knows who he is.  Men feel exactly the same way about women.   No man wants to constantly be inundated by your insecurities.  It’s okay to express to your partner what those insecurities are.  That is part of a loving, supportive relationship.  However, talking about how fat and ugly you feel every day will likely turn anyone off, not just the man at your side.  He has chosen you.  He knows all about those things that you hate about yourself and he still chose you.  Think about that.  There’s a very good chance (like, a 100% chance) that you are being way too hard on yourself.  Try to let the negativity go and appreciate and love yourself.  He will love and appreciate you for that.

5. Don’t forget to tell him what you love about him.

When you are learning how to capture his heart keep in mind the appeal of making him feel great about himself. Unlike women, men choose partners based largely on how they feel when they’re with them. We tend to pick men who make us feel loved. Men pick women who make them love themselves more. It’s a subtle, but very important, difference. You need to make him feel great about himself. If you can accomplish this he’ll find you irresistible. It’s easy to do. Simply pick some qualities in your man that you genuinely admire and adore. Don’t lie.  You want to be with him for a reason so make sure he knows you what those reasons are, too. Compliment him, congratulate him on is accomplishments and tell him how lucky you feel to be with him. Hearing these things is much like an aphrodisiac to a man. He’ll find it intoxicating and if you’re the woman delivering it, he’ll want you more and more.

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