How to Decide if Your Friend is a True Friend

 Part 1 of 3: Notice what your friend says

 1.See if your friend makes supportive comments. A true friend should make you feel needed,       confident, and better about being alive. If your friend is always putting you down or making you feel worthless and never give you a kind word when you need it, then that friend is not true blue. If you want to  know if your friend is a good friend, see if they make comments that encourage you.

• 2.See if your friend listens to you. If your friend is a true friend, then she should take the time to listen to what you have to say. In a true friendship, both people should be sharing their thoughts and getting feedback. If you find that your friend is always talking about his problems, but is bored or distracted as soon as it's time for you to share yours, then you may have a false friend on your hands. 

 

                                                                                                                                                                    3.See if your friend communicates with you. Communication is key in any relationship, especially a friendship. If you and your friend are on the same page, then you should be open about your thoughts and feelings and maintain a level of honest and open dialogue.

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  4.See if your friend loves to gossip a little too much. If your so-called friend is a big gossip, then it's likely that your friend is gossiping about you when you're not around. Though everyone loves some juicy gossip occasionally, if you feel like your friend is always gossiping about someone or talking trash, then chances are, your "friend" will do the same as soon as your back is turned.
   

  Part 2 of 3: Notice what your friend does

  1.See if your friend makes time for you. A true friend will make time for you no matter what. Though life is hectic and it's hard to have enough time to sleep and eat, let alone socialize, a true friend will always make time for you, especially if you need it.

  2.See if your friend makes time for you. A true friend will make time for you no matter what. Though life is hectic and it's hard to have enough time to sleep and eat, let alone socialize, a true friend will always make time for you, especially if you need it.

  3.See if your friend sticks to his word. A flake is not a friend. If your friend never seems to do what he says he'll do, leaves you stranded, or forgets about plans you've made, then you have a flake on your hands. Though it's okay to waver occasionally, if your friend never seems to do what he says he'll do, then he doesn't value your time or company.

  4.See if your friend might have other reasons for being your friend. This soul-searching is particularly hard to do, but it's important. Take the time to reflect on why your friend might want to hang out with you other than just because he values you as a person and enjoys your friendship. Here are some classic reasons why a fake friend might latch on to you.

  
  

  Part 3 of 3: Notice how your friend makes you feel

  

   

  1.See if your friend makes you feel good about yourself. Your friend should be there for you no matter what, and should therefore make you feel better about who you are and the decisions you make. Your friend doesn't have to agree when everything you've done, but your friendship should make you feel good about who you are as a person overall. 

  2.See if your friend makes you feel valuable. If being involved in a friendship with your "friend" makes you feel uncertain of your importance in your friend's life, then you have a problem. While a friend shouldn't coddle you with lies, a true friend should always make you feel needed, important, and even indispensable. 

  3.See if your friend makes you feel happy to be hanging out. This is an important one. Friendship is about making you feel less alone and to enjoy life even more, and it shouldn't make you feel less excited about the world. If you're actually less happy hanging out with your friend than you are when you're alone, then you have a problem.  

  4.Follow your instincts. If you have a feeling that your "friend" isn't acting as such, that you listen to what they say but when you start talking they don't seem to care, then maybe it's time to move on. Even if you've known them for years, maybe it's time to take a break and take a step back to think about what you want to do. Always listen to yourself, because your instincts about a relationship are usually right.